Discovering & Using Your Intuition To Make Better Decisions
Intuition is something that we often suspect is there but often don’t know how to put to practical use.
Sometimes you get a bad feeling at an interview, but accept the job anyway only to regret it six months later when your manager is making your life a misery. Sometimes at a meeting you know instinctively what the solution is, but doubting yourself, you hang back, stay quiet and then quietly seethe when somebody else says it and everybody agrees. And how many times have you wilfully ignored your gut feeling at the start of a less-than-successful relationship? So it’s there, but rather than doubting its existence and pushing it to the side, how do you make it one of your core skills, something you trust and use to do better in your life and in your career?
Kate Tomas is an intuitive consultant with practices in London and New York, and she advises a wide range of clients whether they have a single question they need the answer to or they are looking for more long term support in a challenging situation. She has worked with model agencies and banks, and today she is sharing her advice for developing your confidence in this powerful innate ability that you possess.
Kate Tomas – Engaging Your Intuition
Intuition is a funny faculty. As women, we are told that this is something we have ‘naturally’ but it is only since the Eighteenth Century that intuition was considered ‘feminine’ (and therefore of less value). Before that time intuition was understood as something that only truly great leaders possessed. It was thought to be a gift from God that endorsed the divine right of Kings. Fortunately, you don’t have to be a King to utilize your intuition! There are many ways to use it practically to bring about success and help you make good decisions, perhaps particularly at work.
Like any skill, the more you practice, the better you will get at it, and here are four first steps you could take to develop and use your intuition.
You Know More Than You Think
Firstly, you have to recognise you know more than you think you know. You can access information, and put it to use, in ways that are difficult to express and not instantly open to rational evaluation, Whether this is information picked up subconsciously, or information gained from sensing the atmosphere in a room, we all know more than we think about every situation. The difference between people who use their intuition and those who don’t is that those who do, know how to access this knowledge.
Identify Your Internal Voice & Listen To Your Intuitive One
Often our intuition takes the form of a quiet internal voice, telling us that something isn’t right, or that we should take a particular course of action. This voice is informative, but in order to access the information it has for us, we need to be able to hear it. Therefore, the second step to develop and use your intuition is to identify the internal voices that rival your intuitive one.
Almost all of us are gripped by some forms of negative self-belief. Often this also manifests as an internal voice; the difference between this voice and your intuition is that the negative self-belief only ever tells you that you are not good enough, not capable, or that you will fail. One of the hardest, yet most rewarding, things we can do is to ignore that voice. So when you recognise the scared voice of self-doubt creeping in, identify it, realise that it does not truly reflect you and your ability, and make the choice to ignore it.
Women suffer from negative self-beliefs much more than men, simply because from the time of our birth, we have been told, either subtly or not so subtly, by society, school, and sometimes even our own parents, that we are not as capable, strong, or intelligent as the boys around us.
Those of us over the age of thirty are also likely to have experienced personal relationships with people who reinforced those messages. Being able to identify and actively ignore these narratives of inadequacy is one of the most powerful steps you can take towards accessing your intuition and, in turn, using your intuition on the road to success and happiness.
Start small. Once you recognise that quiet intuitive voice, and get better at listening to it, you can slowly start to act. For example, maybe initiate a conversation with a colleague that you intuitively feel is in agreement with you on a certain issue. Or when looking for a lost item, allow yourself a moment to check in with your intuitive voice to see if it suggests a place to look. As your confidence grows, you will increasingly come to trust this inner voice.
Identify - And Act On - Neglected Priorities
Our intuition can help us by alerting us to neglected priorities. These could be administrative tasks that we feel anxiety or resistance towards; they might be conversations with people we know we cannot avoid, but also cannot face; they might simply be sorting out the pile of clean laundry that’s been sat on the bed for the last three days. Intuition is not just about gaining information about exciting and obviously significant parts of life, it is also about making daily life as fruitful as possible. Learn to identify those neglected priorities and act on them. If you are resistant, then pretend you are the person you want to be, i.e. the woman who acts on her intuition. You learn to trust your intuitive voice by listening to it, irrespective of the context, or how banal the task. Soon enough you will become the woman who always listens to her intuition.
Kate Tomas – Intuitive Consultant and Tarot